It just sort of happened. In discussing this topic with my female friends, it seems to me that men are especially experienced in dealing with this dilemma. Say a friend of mine breaks up with so-and-so, and we run into her at a party.
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In some ways this is perfectly natural. This sort of stuff happens more than you might think. But you do need to make sure you go about this right.
Anyone who has had any sort of meaningful romantic relationship can tell you that—over it or not—it would be difficult for them to be around their ex. A buddy of mine recently mentioned that he might invite my ex to a party that we were going to and asked what I thought about that.
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Breakups require space. We all know the difference between a fling and something more.
Why not go out with the other girls first? Seems like a no-brainer to me.
I hope we can all agree that our friendships are more important to us than a few exciting dates with the next best thing. Before it gets serious.
Before it even gets semi-serious. Ideally, before anything really happens. Like even before a kind-of date. Or it might be totally fine. Or it might be somewhere in-between.
But unless you ask, will you ever know? Why ask? But it matters, nonetheless. I know men typically like to have control over situations or at least feel like we have control. I imagine that most women like to have the same sense of consent. At the very least, it shows her the respect that she deserves given that you have had a relationship. By asking, you let your friend know that you care about the friendship at stake.
Consider the problem.
Of course, not all situations are created equal. Sure, it might make for good cinema, but at what point are you willing to end friendships, complicate entire friend groups, and potentially divide families? We all want to be happy, and most of us are looking for someone with whom to live happily ever after. If you go about it the right way, many of these complicated relationships can, at the very least, be given a shot.
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The most important thing, as is true in most cases, is to be proactive, communicate clearly, and be thoughtful and considerate, especially when there are strong emotions involved. And remember, it never hurts to ask. Is the date going well? Here's what he's probably thinking. The difference between being friendly and flirting can be pretty subtle sometimes.
Your friend didn't give you permission.
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