May 10, So you meet a guy, you get on well, he a lot of the right boxes, but you find yourself asking, are we better off as friends? It can be tricky huh? All good relationships are based off the foundation of friendship, but still — some friendships are meant to stay in that friend-zone.
10 s you’re better off as friends
So how do you know who should be what? Chemistry is important.
You can actually feel it in different ways — not just physically or sexually. It can grow.
But time will surely tell with this one. Feelings and chemistry should only grow in time, not dwindle.
Friendship and romance have so much in common that it can be hard to judge.
See, this goes back to it being too comfortable remember. You want those fireworks, those intense feelings.
Well, not with ease anyway. This is because of all of the reasons above — like chemistry, feelings, connection. And maybe you want this to be more… maybe you know he would be good for you.
Not unless you have things happening in your life that are preventing it from being what it could be. See, when you date, and date with the intention to date, it puts pressure on you having to see the person in a particular way.
If however, you get to know someone as a friend, you see them more for who they are. Once you see someone as a friend, you see them for who they are, and fully appreciate them as a person, with less criticism and judgement… After all, they are who they are.
P.s. i love you
For someone else — for sure. But just not for you. Values are the things that are important to you — the way in which you want to live. The two of you must align.
Always take the time to qualify a person. And actually listen to the answers. It just means you should probably just be friends. This is a big one.
The benefits of an opposite-sex friendship.
He wants something casual, you want more. On a low-level anyway. Ultimately, you want them happy. You will get the level of love that you want and deserve. Your feelings will be reciprocated equally, but not if you waste them on the wrong person.
Or the reverse
So let go, distance yourself, brush yourself off and know that this is for the best. If you can keep him in your life in some way, amazing.
But if this is too hard to do, walk away completely. Be clear.
Be kind. Set boundaries. Because you wish you did!
And yes, it is a shame in some ways — but not totally. Because you can still have a great friendship and know that the right person is out there for the both of you. Are you better off as friends?
Date them, give it a proper shot romantically, have an open mind. Save my name,and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Should We Just Be Friends? Spread the love.