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This post may contain affiliate links. Read my full disclosure Getting engaged young here. I hope you enjoy it! I knew he was the one the moment his father became the next pastor of our small church. While I still had a lot of growing up to do before I started even seriously thinking about boys, I secretly hoped he might look at me someday the way I had always imagined…. I was 16, and he was And so, a few months after I turned 19, he popped the question, I said YES, and we married 3 weeks before my 20th birthday.
I worried about what other people would think about our decision to get married, rather than relying on the encouragement from our supportive family and friends. Are they silently judging my choices?
If I could go back and change those moments, I would be way more confident in my decision. This is sort of a funny one, but ohhh if I had only known how much my tastes would change in the last 7 years! From place settings to bridesmaid dresses, sometimes I wish I had been a little bit older to make some better choices. Not that anything I picked out or planned was Getting engaged young, it was just very different than how I would actually put together a wedding and home right now.
For one, I gave up my experience as a single woman in college ….
I also gave up a bigger dating scene. With no real serious boyfriend before Joseph, I sometimes felt the lack of experience affected my friend choices. Instead of feeling free to go out with whomever I chose, I was attached while so many of my girlfriends were not. After thinking about how much I may or may not have missed, I soon realized that what I gave up was far less than what I chose.
That dating scene I had coveted was totally not worth trading my precious marriage. I had a best friend who woke up with me every day, worked hard for our family, and helped me with my college homework and studying for finals in the evening. I actually had a partner Getting engaged young supported me wholeheartedly and pushed me to succeed. And that was SO wonderful!
I wish I could say the scrutiny stops after you are married, but there were times when we felt like we were scrutinized even more. As just a couple of married kidsour decisions were second-guessed, not taken seriously, and we were always told others knew best because of our lack of experience. However, we wish we could have been treated a little more like adults those first few years.
One of the hard things we faced as a young married couple was finding new friendships. Most of our friends were still single, while older married couples were just beginning the baby and toddler stage.
Even though this in-between stage was difficult at first, it actually brought us closer together. We lived through mismatched furniture, minimum-wage jobs, sketchy apartments, and natural disasters. But I truly believe marriage comes down to what you make it…. Curious to know when the majority of Creative Savings readers got married? There was an overwhelming response on the following Facebook post and it was so much fun to see when everyone tied the knot! Disclosure: Some of the links in the post above are affiliate links.
This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive an affiliate commission. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will add value to my readers. So we were out of college when we got married, but I still had to chuckle Getting engaged young 2. I am totally looking forward to that! I just kind of planned it when I got engaged!
You really could have been talking about me! With only a few tweaks I was a mere 15 and he had just Getting engaged young high school it is our story exactly!
I just have to tell you that after reading your comment, I thought you got married at 15, but then I went and read your bio on your blog and realized you met your husband at 15! I was wed at 17, and not for the commonly thought of reasons, but for love.
What is it with everyone getting married so young?
Babies came some 6 years down the road. I love your blog and your insight. One I would add, is that we finished raising one another. In doing that, who can complain about the. God bless you and good luck.
My late husband and I were high school sweethearts and married at Best friends. Parents of two wonderful girls, grandparents of five good grandchildren, great-grandparents of four littles so far. After all, he is in Heaven with Jesus!
How great is that! That is so amazing you were married all those years! You are so inspiring!
Yes, we were told by many that we were too young, the church we got married in even made us go to pre-marriage counseling. We are definitely each others best friend!! Marriage is something we truly believe that should be celebrated. Celebrate Passionately!!! I liked your blog before and now I do even more.
7 truths about marrying young: lessons from a teenage bride
Best Wishes!! Toodles, Barbi. Thank you so much for your sweet comment, Barbi! I totally agree with you about marriage being celebrated. Almost 22 the first time and 32 the second time. I guess he waited for the right one while I was in a hurry! My husband and I were married when I was 17 and he was I enjoyed reading your thoughts on the situation, especially, as I graduated high school and college with the support of my husband. Sometimes, I envied my single Getting engaged young in college, but, in the end, I know my college career was enhanced by my home situation.
Thanks for your insights!!
Thanks so much for stopping by, Michelle! Happy anniversary! I married at 30, so it was interesting to read about a totally different experience. I fell in love with my high school sweetheart. We married at 20 and yes it was tough being young. You are correct marriage is what you make it. We have raised two awesome kids and have one grand baby.
Married for 28 years and still going strong! There will always be ups and downs but leaving was never an option. All of these are spot on. I married when I was Oh how I wish I could re-pick my wedding colors!
I was 'marriage-shamed' for getting engaged at 22
Not one thing. Great post. Great article…very true! I was engaged at 18 and married at We have now been together for 14 years and blissfully married for almost He is still the absolute best thing that has ever happened to me and has helped make me into the wife and mother I am today. I wish I could have read this article when I was engaged or first married.
It really gives a lot of insight and truths to Getting engaged young in early, young marriages. Its encouraging to know that I am not alone. Great job!!