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Feeling like our friends have a genuine interest in our life is a big part of what makes our friendships so incredibly validating. But when this balance is shifted because one friend is overly focused on their life, it can leave us feeling uncomfortable, annoyed, and even insecure.
Before deciding how you want to handle the situation, it helps to think about why it bothers you. Is it an issue of equality or fairness?
2. they don’t see the big picture.
A good place to start is by seeing whether a subtle hint or re-direction will do. Gently guiding your conversations toward topics you also want to talk about or can contribute to e.
It also helps to pay attention to the moments when you are able to share your take on things or talk about yourself. Reinforcing how nice it is to contribute and have that balance e. And the best way to handle this situation is to address it head-on.
Being assertive will help you get your message across in a way that makes your friend receptive and leaves you feeling good about how you handled the situation. When you do talk to your friend, try sticking to the way they are behaving or acting, instead who they are as a person.
Chances are, your friend will ask for specific examples, so it helps to be prepared. It also happens to be a proactive way to have your voice heard, which will make you feel like the balance is being restored.
Regardless of how you deliver your message, you might want to be prepared for some pushback. The truth probably lies somewhere in the middle.
And keeping this in mind will help you deal with their resistance or defensiveness as well as your own! That being said, it can be helpful to consider whether your behavior might be contributing to the situation in any small way.
Have you been talking a lot about yourself recently? Or do you have a difficult time asserting yourself? As frustrating as this situation can be, give it time.
Agree to check in with each other as time goes on. And let your friend know that they can and should feel free to bring up issues like this with you. Ultimately, friendships are ongoing, evolving relationships. June 6, Log In Good to see you again.