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Anything outside of those three is nothing more than a friendship. Recently, a new phase has surfaced called "the talking phase" of a relationship. Ever heard of it?
It can be hard to determine the official stages of dating — especially in a world that's constantly changing with new social norms — so let's start with what we know. First, we start "dating" — connecting and hooking up. Whether this happens over an app or on a few initial dates, when two people start seeing each other, they go out together at decent hours of the day, they get to know each other, and they start actually hanging out outside of the house not just hooking up.
The purpose of dating around is to have fun and figure out if two people in a relationship are a good match for a romantic relationship — or if they should just remain friends. Next, when two people are committed to each other early on in dating — often referred to as "being exclusive", "social-media official" or "Insta-official" — The talking phase of dating are pretty much doing the same thing they were doing when they were just hooking up, except now there are no other people involved.
The talking stage is like dating — but without all the societal pressures and expectations.
They are exclusive, everyone knows about it, anniversaries are celebrated and they may even be planning a future together. Once things get serious, things move fast after that. Often when we are exclusive to someone for a while, people automatically assume it's time to get engaged, and soon enough marriage is right around the corner.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment that involves all aspects of dating and being exclusive, except now is the part where two lives become one — couples move in and live together, they are ed by legal documents, pledge to love each other eternally and eventually they have kids and grow old together if all goes well and according to plan. Nobody has a direct answer to that question which, to me, is red flag one.
From stories I have heard to things that I have experienced myself, talking is a way to experience all of the beginning dating phases at once without any real ability.
Remember: we're just talking If all of that information gave you a headache, you are not alone. Were we friends? Were we about to start dating?
At what point am I crossing the line if I start to go out with other guys? Is there even a line drawn for me to cross in the first place? Or not dating.
It's a way to put the good ones on the back burner so you can have a good time at others' expense. Until it is established that you two are committed to each other in one way or another, you are only friends with friendship boundaries. Sarah Jones-Smith is a writer who covers relationship, zodiac and women's lifestyles topics.
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